International Quirkyalone Day
annually on February 14th (since 2003)
Sasha Cagen in 2003
Although International Quirkyalone Day takes place on the same day as Valentine's Day, and its name seems to imply it is an anti-Valentine's Day holiday that should be spent alone, that is not absolutely the case. Rather, it is a less commercial alternative to Valentine's Day, and can be celebrated alone or with others. It celebrates self-love, but also romantic, platonic, and familial love, and there aren't many rules on how it must to be celebrated.
A "quirkyalone" is defined as a person who enjoys being single or spending time by themselves. When they date, they do so with a purpose, not just so they can be in a relationship—they believe in waiting for the right person instead of settling. According to Sasha Cagen, the creator of International Quirkyalone Day, "Quirkyalone is ultimately a philosophy about finding happiness within yourself whether you’re single or in a relationship." Those who are single embrace the possibilities and ways they can live a fulfilling life while being single. Those who have the spirit of the day but are in relationships are called "quirkytogethers." They celebrate their individuality while still being in a partnership.
The holiday was first celebrated in 2003, with events taking place in San Francisco, New York, Providence, and Glasgow. Within fifteen years, celebrations had been held in more than 40 cities across four continents. Shortly after starting the holiday, Sasha Cagen published a book, Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics.
How to Observe
The day may be more geared more towards those who are single, but anyone can celebrate. Celebrations should put a spotlight on both love and individuality, and should not have the materialistic trappings of Valentine's Day. It matters not if you are a "quirkytogether" or a "quirkyalone." Those who are single celebrate by exploring ways to live a fulfilling life while not being in a relationship, while those who are in a relationship explore ways to bring out their individuality while still maintaining a partnership.
The creator of the day suggested some ways to celebrate the day, including the following:
- Try a new recipe.
- Go to a new part of town and be a tourist in your own city.
- Have a slumber party.
- Rearrange your furniture.
- Go thrift store shopping.
- Be creative alone, by sewing, upholstering, or doing anything else you like to do.
- Do arts or crafts or cook a meal with friends or your significant other.
- Get daisies for yourself or give them to someone else. Daisies are the official flower of the quirkyalone movement.
- Go to or host a quirkyalone party.
Additionally, you could read Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics, which was written by the day's creator.